Is this the dark side of social media...making it easy for partners to cheat? In an article I read, Facebook is being blamed for the increasing amount of marital breakdowns. Lawyers were claiming that in 2011 Facebook was cited in 1 in 3 divorces.
I found many websites claiming social media played a massive part in cheating. There seems to be a view that social networking sites make cheating easy using the benefits that people (innocently) love it for: the ability to connect instantly, connect to many more people than we would before social media, it's online and accessible anywhere & anytime and the ability to have a different persona online than in your real life.
With regards to cheating, I think another reason that cheating could prosper is due to the way a relationship can easily progress through stages, moving from it's soft and relatively innocent initiation through likes & comments, into discovering shared interests, into an open conversation via news feeds, then onto private conversations. It's at this stage that the danger can escalate, as the communication is no longer public. The final stage is to meet in person. Some would argue that if you were intending to cheat on a partner, this whole process is a lot easier than meeting someone in person in the first instance.
There are many websites and blogs that discuss how to tell if your partner is cheating using social media. These are some commonly claimed signs:
- Late or early night online sessions
- A profile that doesn't match their true self
- A fake profile
- A profile page with little or no activity
- Passwords on everything
- Lots of frequent and private correspondence
- A sense of happiness that is only seen when they are online.
- Talk about their online friends more than their real friends.
- Cutting off the monitor or shutting down when you are around
I have no doubt that there are a lot of people using Facebook and multiple other social media sites to cheat. I also believe that social media can make it easier for someone to cheat. However, I do not believe for one second that social media is responsible for cheating. People must already be predisposed to that behaviour. Responsibility lies solely with the person who cheats. Social media is merely a tool that people use for connecting with each other. Like anything else, this tool can be used for less than desirable means. After all, cheating has happened since the dawn of time. When email, mobile phones and text messages were invented they all provided newer and easier ways for cheaters to carry out their behaviour.
What do you think, is social media is responsible for cheating? Or does it merely facilitate it? I'd love to hear from you about this or any other thoughts you may have.